CHAPTER FIVE CHRIST – THE HEAD OF WOMAN
“My soul longeth, yea, even fainteth for the courts of the Lord: my heart and my flesh crieth out for the living God.” *** Psalm 84:2
The Psalmist proclaimed that if we are to come into the courts of the Lord (His presence), our soul must long and faint for this privilege. The word soul is NEPHASH and means “our self-life, our appetites, desires, emotions and passions”. In other words, our whole being and desire should be to enter into His presence.
“My soul fainteth…” Fainteth is the Hebrew word KALAH and means “to cease, to come to an end, to accomplish, to complete”. When our soul fainteth, our self-life, our fleshly desires, emotions and passions have come to an end. They cease to be a consideration in our daily lives. Our total desire is to come into His courts, the very presence of God. When our soul, life and desire comes to an end, we will fulfill the commandment of God that He gave to Israel, as recorded in Luke.
“Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind: and thy neighbour as thyself.” *** Luke 10:27
When we love the Lord, and come to Him with our whole heart, soul, strength and mind, we can confidently state, as the son of Korah, “My heart and my flesh crieth out for the living God, *** Psalm 84:2. Heart is the Hebrew word LEB and has the same meaning as NEPHESH. The heart is the “inner man”, the self-life, the seat of emotions.
The Psalmist writes that our heart, the inner man; and our flesh, our outer man; or our whole being, must come to the place where we cry out for the living God. The words “crieth out” mean “to overcome, to shout for joy”. Our whole being must come into this overcoming attitude. If we are to come into His courts with praise and thanksgiving, every fiber of our being must conform with the attitude of overcoming the old nature and shouting for joy because of the Holy Spirit’s cleansing and chastening in our lives. Can we truly say, “Change my heart, O God, Make me ever new!”? Paul spoke of the “inner man” in his letter to the Ephesians,
“That He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might (DUNAMIS, power) by His Spirit in the inner man.” *** Ephesians 3:16
God’s dunamis power must come into the inner man so that His dunamis power can be expressed in the outer man. When this happens, God’s dunamis power will be manifested to His whole creation.
God’s creation must come into His perfect order. God cannot bring His kingdom “on” the earth until His kingdom order has been established “in” our earth. This must happen in the lives of God’s elect before we will see His kingdom. All mankind is waiting for a people to live what they profess. *** Psalm 2
When Paul was establishing kingdom order in the church at Corinth, he stated,
“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.” *** I Corinthians 11:3
In the beginning, Christ was the head of the man. The head of the woman was man. Many believe it was because of sin and the curse God pronounced that man was to have the headship over his wife or helpmate. But this headship was established from the beginning of God’s creation.
“For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man.
Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.” *** I Corinthians 11:8-9
The woman was created for the man and was taken from man. The woman is the only creation that was not created from the dust of the earth. She was taken from the side of man. Adam related,
“This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” *** Genesis 2:23-24
Man and woman are one flesh. They were not separate creations. Woman was the continuation of the same creation. One is not inferior to the other. They are the same creation. They are God’s Adam creation. God made His creation, Adam, male and female. Everything God created, He made male and female. This was necessary for pro-creation. God’s creation, Adam, would regenerate and multiply and replenish the earth. *** Genesis 1:28
So where is the difference between the male and female of God’s creation, Adam? The difference is in headship. Paul relates that the head of the woman is the man. The word head is KAPHALE and means “supreme, or to be set over”. It is the order God established even before the advent of sin into His creation.
Paul spoke of the man,
“Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered, dishonoureth his head.” *** I Corinthians 11:4
With the woman, Paul relates,
“But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven.” *** I Corinthians 11:5
Again, Paul was not speaking of the woman’s natural head being covered, but the headship God had established; and her head is the man, or her husband. If a woman is unmarried, her head is her father, brother or uncle. If the woman is widowed by death or divorce, her head would be the eldership in the church. But if the woman is praying or prophesying with her head uncovered, she dishonoureth her head.
Many have taken this to refer to a physical covering and wear a bonnet, scarf or doily as their covering. These would not think of going to the assembly without this covering, believing they are pleasing in the sight of God. Paul was not speaking of a physical covering. He was speaking about having her head (the man) covered.
How can the woman cover her head? The only way she can cover her head is through submission. If she is not submitted to her head, then she has no head, and she cannot come into the presence of God.
There are two words that speak of the wife covering her head through submission. The first is HUPATASSO. The second is HUPOTAGE. HUPATASSO means “to be ranked under, or to be in order, under” as God has established. HUPOTAGE is translated ” to be in subjection to”. If God does not go by His established order, then there can be no order in His courts, or His presence. Confusion would then exist in His courts, just as confusion exists in the church today, because God’s order has not been established.
There are many scriptures that state a wife is to submit and be subject unto her husband. We need to review these scriptures and find the direction God gave to the woman concerning her relationship to her husband.
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” *** Ephesians 5:22
Wives are to submit (HUPOTASSO, to be ranked under) themselves unto their own husband as unto the Lord. A woman cannot be subject unto the Lord and by-pass her husband. If the woman has not willingly submitted herself to her husband, she can never be submitted unto the Lord because she has violated God’s order and is in disobedience to His Word. The wife who is walking in disobedience to God’s Word is in the same place as Eve, when she proclaimed unto the serpent,
“…We may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden:
But of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die.” *** Genesis 3:2-3
She was not ignorant of God’s commandment, nor was she ignorant of the penalty of disobedience. Eve, as so many women today, chose to ignore God’s Word and justify her actions and disobedience.
King Saul stood in the same place as Eve. When God gave him a direct commandment through the prophet, Samuel, Saul chose to walk in His own way. He completely understood the Word of the Lord, but he, too, chose to disobey and walk in rebellion. God sent Samuel to Saul to speak His Word unto him,
“For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry. Because thou hast rejected the Word of the Lord, He hath also rejected thee from being king.” *** I Samuel 15:23
When women reject the Word of God, and come before the Lord with their head uncovered, not being subject unto the man, they are no different than Eve or Saul who understood God’s Word and refused to do it. If they refuse to repent, they are guilty of stubbornness and idolatry. God’s Word is sure and it cannot be denied.
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.” *** Colossians 3:18
Paul wrote that the woman was to submit as it is “fit” in the Lord. Is the woman to submit to her husband if he requires her to do something that is directly against the Word of God? This becomes a very difficult question to answer. As we read in the Old Testament, Abraham asked Sarah to be deceptive about her being his sister, because he was afraid for his life. This act culminated in Sarah being taken into Pharaoh’s harem and counted among Pharaoh’s wives, *** Genesis 12. Sarah was obedient to the voice of her husband, and because of Sarah operating in this proper order, God protected her from any activity with Pharaoh. Pharaoh became very wroth with Abraham because he deceived him. In this instance, Pharaoh was more righteous then Abraham,
“And Pharaoh called Abram, and said, What is this that thou hast done unto me? why didst thou not tell me that she was thy wife?
Why saidst thou, She is my sister? so I might have taken her to me to wife: now therefore behold thy wife, take her, and go thy way.” *** Genesis 12:18-19
When we follow God’s commandments, He will protect us in any situation. Because Sarah was obedient to the Word of God, God protected her from any harm. Peter spoke of Sarah’s obedience,
“Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.” *** I Peter 3:6
Sarah called her husband, Abraham, lord. Abraham was not always right in his decisions, but Sarah trusted in God. And when she followed God’s Word, she was in the care and protection of the Father. When she was in subjection to her head, she was not responsible for the outcome in any situation. Her head became responsible. There is much security for the woman when she comes into this proper relationship to her husband. It relieves her to perform the duties of being a wife, a helpmate to her husband, and a mother. She, then, is not concerned about the areas of life God has given her husband responsibility over.
Peter also recorded,
“For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands.” *** I Peter 3:5
Peter wrote that the women of old who trusted in God were in submission to their own husbands. The statement “who trust in God” implies that there were also women in the Old Testament who did not trust in God, and did not submit themselves to their own husbands. A good example of the women of old who did not trust God was Jezebel. There have been many teachings on the Jezebel spirit that exists in many women today.
The question that is asked more often than not is, “What if the husband is not submitted unto God, or is not saved?” Are there circumstances, then, when the woman is excused from following God’s established order? Or, is it necessary for her to accept that “all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose. *** Romans 8:28
Today many women state, “My husband is not spiritual.” “My husband is not saved.” “My husband treats me terrible.” Does this negate the commandment of God for women to be in subjection to their own husbands? It certainly does not. The godly woman who truly trusts in the Lord will be in subjection to her own husband, as it is fit in the Lord. Proper order in a marital relationship must begin before marriage. God admonishes His people,
“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?” *** II Corinthians 6:14
This scripture applies equally to the man as well as the woman. If the woman has become unequally yoked with an unbeliever, does this give her an escape route from being in subjection to her husband? A careful search of the scriptures will reveal no loopholes for the unsubmitting wife to escape the commandment of God.
We need to address the fact that there are husbands who are unsaved and have godly, dedicated wives. How can the godly wife submit herself unto him in spiritual matters, when he does not have Christ as his head? It should be obvious that the unsaved husband can not be his wife’s spiritual head. The believing wife must then look for spiritual leadership in the eldership of the assembly she is attending.
Now, since the husband cannot be her spiritual head, does this relieve the wife of submitting to her husband as her head? No! Even though her husband cannot be her head in spiritual matters, it does not change the fact that he is still the husband, and was made the head of the woman by the commandment of God. Paul writes,
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.” *** Colossians 3:18
What if the husband requires something that is not “fit” in the Lord? The word used for “as it is fit” is the word ANEKO and means “pertains to what is due, or duty”. God never intended that women be physically or sexually abused. The wife has the right to say no to those things that are against the way God intended the marriage relationship to be. I believe a godly woman must not only say No, but insist that her desires in this area be honoured.
Subjection does not mean “slavery”. Submission does not give the husband permission to abuse the wife. But the wife is commanded to submit to the husband concerning those things that are her wifely duties.
Peter, who was given the keys to the kingdom, writes,
“As Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.” *** I Peter 3:6
In the Epistle to the Galatians, Paul also writes,
“For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ.
There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.
And if ye be Christ’s, then are ye Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise.” *** Galatians 3:27-29
The woman becomes the seed of Abraham and becomes an heir according to the promise because she has put on Christ. She has covered her head, her husband. When she covers her head, she can then come into the presence of God when she is praying and prophesying the same as her husband. When she comes into this proper order, then her prayers ascending to the Father are not hindered. This will release the power of God in her life to accomplish what God has planned for her life in the kingdom. She will then not be afraid in any amazement, *** I Peter 3:6. She will no longer live in fear because she has placed her total trust in the hands of the Father as the women of old. This enables her to come into a right standing before God.
When Paul revealed,
“But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven.
For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered.” *** I Corinthians 11:5-6
Paul said the woman who does not have her head covered is to let her hair be shaven or shorn. How could Paul make such a statement? Paul was saying that,
“If a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.” *** I Corinthians 11:15
Long hair is a glory unto the woman. It is her natural covering. Paul states, if her head is not covered, speaking of the headship of the man, then let her be shaven or shorn. If she has no spiritual covering, then let the natural covering of her physical glory be taken away, also.
Paul was making reference to the women who were lewd, or prostitutes. In Paul’s day, the prostitutes cropped their hair short to advertise their trade. Paul stated that if the woman did not stand righteous before her God, and was in rebellion; then let her shame be shown before all people. Again, this is a spiritual application. No bondage should be put on those women who have short hair.
Paul goes on to say,
“For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man.” *** I Corinthians 11:7
As the man, ANER, is the image and glory of God, the woman, GUNE, is the glory of the man. The woman is always to bring glory to her husband. The word for glory is DOXA and means “dignity, honor, praise and worship”. The woman is to bring dignity, honor, praise and worship to her husband; as Sarah and the women of old, who called their husbands, lord, whose daughters you are, as long as ye do well in the sight of God.
Although there is no direct commandment that the woman is to love her husband, Paul wrote to Titus that the older women were to teach the younger women to be sober (serious minded) to love their husbands and their children. *** Titus 2:4 The scriptures state plainly that the man is to love his wife. Paul further stated that,
“Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.” *** Ephesians 5:33
By the leading of the Holy Spirit, Paul stated that a woman was to reverence her husband. The word reverence means “to venerate, with deference or reverential obedience”. Webster renders the word venerate as “displaying the highest degree of respect; yielding in opinion, regard, respect and submission”.
When Paul stated that the wife was to reverence her husband, he made it very clear that she was to hold her husband in the highest degree of respect, being submitted unto him. Paul admonished the husband that he was to love his wife as himself. But what if the husband does not follow God’s Word in his relationship to his wife? If the husband fails to come up to God’s standards in his relationship to his wife, does this relieve the woman from fulfilling her godly duties and direction concerning her relationship to her husband? The old saying is, “Two wrongs do not make a right.” When God gives His directions and commandments, they are to be obeyed. We stand before God and His Word in every area of our lives.
When we follow God’s Word, we are not responsible for the outcome of the situation. But our obedience releases the power of God to perform His will in our lives and the lives of those around us. When the wife fulfills her godly duties to the man, she releases the power of God in her life to bring the changes about that she desires in her husband. Peter wrote to the godly wife,
“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the Word, they also may without the Word be won by the conversation of the wives.” *** I Peter 3:1
Peter promised that, if the wives would be in subjection to their ungodly, unsubmitted-to-God husbands, then the husband would be won by the conversation (the godly way of life) of the wife. The Holy Spirit made this promise through Peter. He did not promise the husband would be won by constant nagging, harassment, threats, or complaining about him to others, but by the godly attitude and submission of the godly wife. And even though he may not necessarily deserve it, the godly wife will be his glory.
Obedience to God and His Word releases the power of God to act in any situation. Many times we desire God to act first. But we are informed that “Faith moves the hand of God.” God’s Word is true. And all His promises are yea and amen to the glory of God by us. *** II Corinthians 1:20 As we begin to understand the order God has designed for His Adam creation, it becomes increasingly clear what He expects of His creation if we are to be pleasing in His sight. God has established His order. He has made it very clear throughout His Word. When confronted by the Pharisees, Jesus stated,
“But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.” *** Mark 10:6
God has never changed His thinking on His creation. He still views it as male and female. Today, those who would have us believe that God sees no difference between His creation, man, and His creation, woman, violate every reference in the Bible to that difference and to God’s order as He has established it.
Paul wrote to Timothy,
“For Adam was first formed, then Eve.
And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.” *** I Timothy 2:13-14
The man sinned willfully after his helpmate had fallen from the grace of God through disobedience to the man’s word. God had spoken to man that he was not to partake of the mixed fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, *** Genesis 2:17. God spoke this to Adam before the woman was formed from his side in *** Genesis 2:21.
It was the man who was to administer God’s words to his wife. She rebelled, not only against God, but against her husband, also. Part of the curse that God pronounced on the woman was because of this rebellion against her husband,
“…and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.” *** Genesis 3:16
The word desire means “yearning and longing for”. The word rule means “dominion given and dominion exercised”. Because of rebellion, God gave man dominion over the woman. But it was God’s desire from the beginning that the woman submit to her husband and reverence him, being obedient to His Word; not as Eve who brought the curse of pain in childbirth to all His female creation.
Adam sinned willfully so that he could remain with his wife. God had made them one flesh. Adam could no longer continue in God’s anointing when Eve had fallen into disobedience and had lost her covering in God.
God’s desire is that the husband and the wife walk together in Him in the order He established from the beginning.
“For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man.
Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.” *** I Corinthians 11:8-9
In the beginning, God created woman as an helpmate for man. This He has not changed; even though many have tried to overlook the Word of God, attempting to change and pervert what God is saying to suit their own purposes. The woman is to be the glory of the man. If she is to release the power of God in her life, she must cover her head (man), her husband, when she is praying or prophesying.
“Judge in yourselves: is it comely that a woman pray unto God uncovered?” *** I Corinthians 11:13
We are to judge (discern) in ourselves: Is it comely, suitable or proper that a woman pray unto God uncovered; or, that her head be in his proper place in her life before she prays unto God? If she is not submitted to her head, how can she be submitted unto the Father?
We cannot come into His courts (presence) until we come into His order. There are no bypasses or shortcuts in His order. It is as He has ordained it from the beginning. God’s perfect order was established in the garden. As long as man operated in this order, he could remain in the garden, the presence of God. Until we return to God’s established order, we cannot return to the garden. God is not going to change to accept us. We must change, if we are to be acceptable in His sight.
God is not interested in what we think. He is only interested that we think like Him. When we walk in total submission, we have put on the mind of Christ. Submission is not only expected from the woman, it is mandated by God through His Word. The Holy Spirit confirms that women who are completely submitted to God and are walking in the Spirit have no problem with submitting to their head.
Those who will not submit are in rebellion as Eve in the garden. These can never expect their husbands to change because their conversation (way of life) is out of order in God. Because of this, the power of change cannot be released in their husband’s lives. Only repentance and turning with the whole heart to God will enable their prayers to move the hand of God, to produce in their husbands the kind of man that God promised a righteous, virtuous woman.
When the woman enters the prayer closet, she should make sure she is in proper order with her head covered, so that her prayers be heard. The power of prayer will then be released in her husband’s life, her children’s lives and all those she is praying for. God will have order in His court. If we are to stand before Him, then there will be order in our lives also. That order must be His order.
1. If we are to come into the courts of the Lord, our soul must _______________ ____________ ________________ for this privilege.
2. God cannot bring His kingdom ______________ _______________ ______________ until His kingdom order has been established ___________ __________________ _________________.
3. Explain why man and woman are one flesh.
4. Where is the difference between the male and female of God’s creation, Adam? Explain.
5. What is the importance of a woman praying or prophesying with her head covered?
6. What is the primary significance of a woman willingly submitting herself to her husband?
7. Is the woman to submit to her husband if he requires her to do something that is directly against the Word of God?
8. a. Proper order in a marital relationship must begin __________ _________________.
b. To which partner does this apply?
9. From whom does a spiritual wife married to an unspiritual husband secure spiritual leadership?
10. How does a woman reverence her husband?
11. How does a wife release the power of God in her life to bring the changes about that she desires in her husband? Scripture?
12. ____________________ moves the hand of God.
13. Was Adam deceived as Eve was? What was his sin?
14. When we walk in total submission, we have ___________________________________.