Sir Godfrey Gregg OHPM, ROMC
Everyone wants to be able to change their lives in some way: to heal something, to initiate activities like an exercise program, to change a personal habit, to find a romantic partner, to lose weight, to get to their highest potential, to develop their intuition, to find their soul purpose.
As long as we are alive, this process continues. Everyone has a next step waiting to be taken, and everyone – absolutely everyone – has trouble accomplishing these goals. In fact, we spend an inordinate amount of time making up reasons and excuses for not moving forward.
Not moving forward is extremely painful, not just because you’re frustrated with yourself. The desire you have to change a habit or begin a new life comes from your soul. When you do not move forward on your path, you are blocking the very expression of your soul. Therefore, the emotional frustration that accumulates over months or years of coping with the same dysfunctional patterns of self-sabotage merely represents the surface issue.
Here are five practical things we need to be aware of so we can break free and move forward in our lives more effectively:
1: Get over the fear of humiliation
Most people are controlled by the fear of being humiliated. That fear alone holds them back from moving forward in their lives.
How do you get over the paralyzing fear of being humiliated and worry about what others will say? You do so by recognizing that your true locus of control is inside of you, and does not come from anyone outside you. When you recognize the Divine Presence in your being and start to follow its gentle prompting, you will find that the truth and affirmation you are looking for, resides within.
Looking outside ourselves for approval, acceptance and love, is a trap of the ego. And the fear that it invokes of being humiliated if the external feedback does not meet our expectations, is really based on pride.
True commitment to the journey of our souls brings with it a deep sense of humility. When we are no longer looking outside ourselves for approval and affirmation, we finally align with the true Source of our being. That relationship moves us to a place of deep inner honesty and humility. No longer do we need to impress or win the fleeting approval of others; instead, we identify with our true identity as souls, and focus on aligning every aspect of our lives to express the eternal relationship with our Source.
2. What reality do you live in?
Do you find yourself bargaining that you will get on with what you need to do as soon as the children are grown, or after you are out of debt, or once you get a new job? Are you dreaming of the life you’d love to have if only you had the money, time or resources? If so, you may be living in a fantasy world!
On this planet, results come from matching vision with action, step by step. Nothing falls from the sky ready-made, and circumstances never pause to create the perfect show-stopping opportunity for you to step into. If you are waiting for the perfect opportunity before taking action, you will be waiting for a very, very long time. The question to ask yourself instead is, “What am I doing in the meantime?”
Appeasing the yearning of your soul with empty rationalization and promises, is not enough. You need to start taking action to bring your life into alignment with the guidance you are being given, or else you are living in a fantasy world. When guidance is given, it needs to be acknowledged and you need to commit to do what you are being shown. If not, you may end up in guidance overload – overwhelmed, stuck or frustrated – and you’ll have nobody to blame but yourself!
3. Guidance Overload
Guidance overload is a very real condition that comes from asking for help from too many people but never acting on any of the information that you have stuffed into your energy field. When you recognize the need to make a change in your life, it is normal to start gathering information for ways to move forward. The trap lies in over-analyzing each piece of guidance and information, or waiting for another, and another, piece to appear before taking action. This can move you into analysis paralysis or guidance overload, where there is too much information floating around in your mind, all of which are triggering your fears, anxieties, limiting beliefs and memories of past trauma, and you end up not knowing where to start. Guidance overload is also an indication of having given your power away to others instead of taking full responsibility for your life; for what it is and for what it isn’t. It is not a happy place to be at!
To break free from guidance overload, you need to go back to the beginning and look at the very first step that needs to be taken. As the nervous chattering of fear and limitation arise in response to that intended step, deal with it! Our greatest power lies in choosing our truth in the face of our fears. Drill down to the source of the fear or belief and recognize it for what it is – an ego tactic to keep you from changing the status quo in your life. Surrender your attachment to it and take that first step forward in the face of your fear. When you have taken the first step, you can ask for more guidance, always listening for and giving precedence to the inner voice of Truth.
4. Become A Mystic In The Marketplace
For many centuries, mystics lived on the very fringe of society. They did not mix with the masses, nor did they participate in affairs of the world. This has all changed. Today, the level of consciousness on the planet has tipped the scales to offer potential for unprecedented growth and change. Spiritually awakened beings are being called to participate in this worldwide shift by becoming mystics in the marketplace, and not on the mountain or in the monastery.
To answer the call, you need to learn how to commune with your soul to access the inner guidance that is stirring there. Every change that you wish to see come about in society, starts with you and the field of consciousness that you are holding. Our growing understanding of science and the quantum field, have made it clear that all change comes about by the energy of that field.
We are to be the change we desire to see in the world, and we are to change the world around us through the power of our evolving souls as we align with the Life Force energy within. No longer are we to separate ourselves from the world at large; instead, the world has become our oyster and we need to start consciously standing in the gap, holding the energy field of love in which consciousness can evolve.
To do so, we need to acknowledge our purpose; commit to the task by clearing, strengthening and purifying our own souls; and become lighthouses that silently radiate the energy field of love to facilitate positive change in the world. We act as vessels for grace in the world to bring about transformation and healing through our becoming that. In a world crying for healing, there is no greater service we can offer.
5. Appropriate Support For Each Stage of Growth
On the journey of personal growth and development, you will experience three core stages of learning. You may find yourself at a certain stage in one area and another stage in other areas of your life. The key to personal growth and success lies in being able to determine where your personal learning needs to be fine-tuned and then to support that growth with appropriate correction, learning and feedback. When we get stuck in any one of these stages, growth stagnates and behaviour can become pathological.
Beginning Stage – Knowledge
The beginning stage of learning is the thinking or cognitive stage. This is the stage where you may decide to learn more about something – you may choose to explore spiritual realities and you may delve into many traditions, teachings and materials. You may spend a lot of time processing new concepts mentally, working out in your mind what to do. Mistakes are common and it is difficult to filter irrelevant information appropriately, since discernment is a skill that gets refined with time and practice. You may get overwhelmed easily when there are too many things happening in your life at one time or if you put pressure on yourself. During this phase, personal growth tends to be sporadic, uncoordinated and often somewhat lopsided – not unlike what happens when you start playing a new sport for the first time. Some of the most valuable tools during this phase include receiving constructive feedback and encouragement from others, giving yourself room and grace to fail, and making a commitment to keep going. Repeated effort provides us with the practice needed to become more familiar with the process.
Intermediate Stage – Application
The intermediate or application stage is the next level in learning. Here, you start drawing on what you have learned about in the beginning stage to implement meaningful change into your life. It is no longer good enough to simply know about things, you now start moving into practical application; you experiment with these higher ways of being in order to live it. During this phase, we start connecting the dots in our learning and with the experience gained from practical application, we start shifting our perspective to a higher level. We start moving out of the intellect and into the heart, from where we start clearing everything that is illumined by the higher awareness as no longer useful.
During the application stage, you may try many different approaches before experiencing a sense of accomplishment. Since practical application brings about real-world outcomes, you are very aware of the external environment in which you operate. You may have a strong need for external encouragement on your progress to build confidence and assurance. If not kept in balance, anticipation in desired outcomes can evolve into expectations that set you up for disappointment.
Constructive feedback is vitally important during this stage to maintain balance, align you to core truths and to recontextualize individual differences. This is the stage where individual limitations and beliefs need to be continually challenged and cleared to facilitate continued development and growth.
Advanced Stage – Integration
In advanced states of learning, you take full responsibility for your actions and your behaviour becomes self-regulating. You have moved from the stage of knowing about things, to doing it, and now you are becoming it. You no longer look outside yourself for affirmation, guidance and support, but find it through your ever-present connection to Source. Listening and dialoging with the Divine Presence within, is now automatic and facilitates personal diagnosis and adjustment in areas of imbalance when needed.
Functioning at this level brings awareness of the holographic universe and your part in it, and you become very effective at being a positive influence for change, shifting the level of consciousness around you simply by what you are and have become. At this level, growth or development may be incremental and appear smaller, because the individual is dealing with fine-tuning and deep inner work that may or may not be visible to others.
Collectively, these five keys can be very helpful to identify where your progress may be stagnated in any area of life, and how to break free so you can live more effectively.